The Reject

Being rejected is a pain I don't think any of us will ever get used to. Rejection has a way of triggering the most toxic ungodly feelings and emotions. Recently, God revealed to me the unhealthy relationship I share with rejection. It's been a process, but I am truly grateful for the lessons God has been teaching me along the way!

I've battled with accepting rejection for as long as I can remember. Whether it be rejection in friend groups, from family, at jobs, or even from strangers, dealing with rejection has always been something I struggled with. Just recently God showed me one of the main reasons I have an issue in this area. God revealed to me that I give the rejection I experience in life the power to determine my self- worth!

In many instances where I was met with rejection, I felt as though I was being rejected because of something I lacked and that's just not the case. God had to get me to understand that rejection has nothing to do with the rejected, and everything to do with the rejecter. Someone choosing to reject me, no matter what the reason is, is their personal preference and there is nothing I can really do to control it.

Recently, I've been in a season where I have been met with rejection in multiple areas of my life. I'd be lying if I said this season hasn't had an effect on me. I've had many of days where I've felt sad, hurt, confused, angry, spiteful, vengeful, you name it, I've probably felt it! It wasn't until these last couple of weeks when I submitted the situations to God fully, that I was able to gain understanding on what was happening and why rejection impacted me the way it did. It's my prayer that if you are feeling like you are a "reject" or you struggle with rejection, you can find clarity in some of these things God has shared with me while on this healing journey.

Monitors

One of the most hurtful parts in this season was when God revealed the true characteristics of the people who I thought were in my corner, who I thought were truly rooting for me, who I thought supported me. Coming to that realization was definitely a tough pill to swallow. It was hard for me because I take pride in supporting my family, friends and really anybody in my circle in EVERYTHING that they do. So when it was my turn, looking up and not seeing certain people there was devastating honestly. It made me feel like maybe I wasn't deserving of the blessings and breakthroughs I was receiving, or that they weren't important enough. It made me feel irrelevant to people who meant so much to me.

I went back and forth with these thoughts holding me captive for days. I just couldn't understand it. I couldn't shake the emotions I felt behind what was happening. I told myself so many things, maybe they don't realize they aren't being supportive, or maybe they don't realize they aren't showing up for me, the way I do for them. I continued to pray and give it all over to God and one day God stopped me in my tracks and revealed the intentions and hearts of some of the people around me. Let me tell you, it through me for a loop! God showed me that the people who were choosing not to support or not to show up, did in fact see me but had something personally on the inside of them that wouldn't allow them to celebrate me.

I learned that sometimes people want you to be happy but not outside of what they deemed should be your happiness limit. Being too happy or doing too well doesn't sit well with them for whatever their personal reason is. So rejecting you and making you feel like you're doing something wrong is the final attempt to dictate and control the outcomes of your life. When they never realized to begin with, what God has for you, is for you and with or without them showing up, God will still do a great work on your behalf.

God revealed every person with a "monitoring" spirit in my life. People who ask questions, seem to care but really just want to keep up with where you are and what you're up to. They don't clap for you when you win, they don't support or show up for you in love. He revealed it, and it was a such a powerful thing I had to take in. To think that people who I would do anything for, don't really have my best interest at heart is a hurtful thing. To know that because they can't control your outcome they rather make you out to be a "reject" is crazy.

The Approval Of God

These past few weeks have been filled with God restoring and replenishing parts of my heart and spirit that were torn down so badly from rejection. God showed me that the favor on my life, the blessings He bestows upon me, the assignments He trusts me with are between Him and I and no man could ever take any of it away even if they wanted to. God had to show me that whether I had 1 supporter or 1 million supporters, His stamp of approval should be the only thing I seek after. His love, His thoughts, His support is all you need to fulfill the plans He has for you.

Rejection Is God's Protection!

Lastly, I had to learn that sometimes rejection is God's way of protecting us. Sometimes He has to pull us away and set us apart so that we realize and understand that everybody can't go with us. I'm noticing that He does this even more often when He is putting you in a position to level up! And while it may hurt as you witness people that mean a lot to you dropping like flies, or relationships changing, we have to understand that God's intent is never to hurt us.

Prayer

Dear God, we thank you for being a God that loves us and never will forsake us. We thank you for seeing us as valuable beings no matter what we do. We thank you for revealing to us things that are necessary on our journey's. Lord we ask that you be the God of our emotions as we navigate through being rejected. Let us remember your promises and purposes for our lives. I ask that you continue to cover and keep Hidden Treasures as we continue to Heal, Evolve, and Rise together! AMEN!